High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

Why More Date Nights Won’t Fix Your Marriage

Chelsey Holm Season 1 Episode 27

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If you’ve ever been told that the solution to your marriage struggles is “just go on more dates,” this one’s for you.


In this raw and real episode, Chelsey dismantles the cultural myth that date nights can fix what’s broken in your marriage. She shares her own story of trying to “paint over ashes” when the real issue was a missing foundation—and how only God’s design and grace can rebuild what’s been burned down.


Inside this episode:


  • Why the “date night fix” keeps couples stuck in cycles
  • How pressure, performance, and unhealed wounds show up in physical intimacy
  • Why women weren’t designed to carry the emotional and spiritual weight of leading
  • The biblical design for marriage and how it restores peace, passion, and purpose
  • What surrender actually looks like when you’re exhausted from doing it all



This is not about another surface-level solution—it’s about deep, holy restoration.

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Chelsey Holm | the Wife Coach
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I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

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2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)
10+ years coaching experience
NASM-certified in Personal Training and Nutrition
Mom of 5, Army wife 16 years

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