High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm

Heart Posture First: Why Behavior Change Without Surrender Won’t Last

Chelsey Holm Season 2 Episode 9

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So many wives are trying to do all the right things — change their tone, fix their habits, communicate better — and still feel like they’re failing.

Why? Because they’re starting in the wrong place.

In this episode, Chelsey breaks down the critical difference between behavior modification and true transformation. She shares why surrendered heart posture is the foundation for lasting change — not just in marriage, but in your walk with God.

You’ll learn:

  • Why most coaching, therapy, and self-help fall short
  • How fear and pride sneak into Christian performance
  • What the Holy Spirit can do when we stop “trying harder”
  • Practical steps to shift from control to surrender

If you’ve been stuck in striving, white-knuckling growth, or trying to become the “perfect wife,” this episode will set you free.

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I help Christian wives surrender fully, live Spirit-led, and be set apart according to God’s design in marriage, motherhood, and life."

Ready for a next step?

If this episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to move from insight into surrender, I created a short guided experience called From Awareness to Surrender.

This mini course includes three short teachings, a guided exercise, and a prayer recorded over you to help you stop cycling and start responding differently—rooted in surrender, not striving.

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Looking for ongoing support?
Inside High Level Wife, we continue this work together through Spirit-led teaching, posture work, nervous system safety, and daily surrender lived out over time—without behavior modification or pressure.

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2x certified Coach (John Maxwell Leadership, Kristen Boss SSLS)
10+ years coaching experience
NASM-certified in Personal Training and Nutrition
Mom of 5, Army wife 16 years

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