BREAKING NEWS! Not Every Thought You Think Is Your Own

Right now, your strongest thoughts are driving the direction of your life. What you're looking for, you're finding. In this episode, Chelsey unpacks how all of your thoughts are impacting you and what to do about it.

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Welcome back to the High Level Wife podcast. I'm Chelsea Holm, and we do Marriage God's Way here. And I wanted to kind of piggyback off the last episode about you know what I needed an older, wiser wife to tell me, because one of the things I mentioned was not every thought you think is your own. And I think this deserves and needs its own episode because not every thought that you think is your own. The enemy plants thoughts, whether they're whispered to us or planted in front of us, or thoughts that come from those we surround ourselves with, right? Or what it is that we're consuming, the media, the entertainment, the news, right? All of these things begin to shape and impact our identity. But if you don't understand that these things might not actually be your own thoughts, then you're going to chase those, you're going to entertain those, you're going to feed those and nurture those. And they begin, they begin to take root. They begin to hold on as a stronghold in your life. And your life moves in the direction of your strongest thoughts. An excellent resource for taking your thoughts captive and to do it in a way that honors the Lord and also works within the realm of how God created our brains, how neuroplasticity works, how our brains are wiring and strengthening the strongest thoughts that we have and getting rid of the old things every day, right? Like there are things you don't remember from third grade math. Maybe, I don't know. Maybe that's just me. But if someone turns on a song from your childhood or teen years, you can sing every single word, right? Like our brains are constantly being shaped daily by the strongest things that we focus on and the things that we have lost focus on, right? Some of those are really deep in our core. But you need to understand that, oh, I know, I didn't even say winning the war in your mind. That's the resource by Craig Rochelle is an excellent book. I think there's a study guide that goes along with it. It's an excellent place to start, and it it helps you to be able to identify the lies and to be able to anchor into truth and then be able to decide the direction that you go with. Are you going to feed it or are you going to starve it? Right? Because every thought that you think is not your own. So what do we do with that? Right? So if every thought you think is not your own, then what are some of the thoughts that have been on repeat in your mind just today that might not actually be your thoughts? I just had a thought last night that my husband and I were frustrated with each other over something because we're human and it happens, right? We have emotions and sometimes we don't deal with them in the healthiest of ways. And and sometimes, and this is going to be an episode coming up about old patterns and old fears, sometimes those old fears that we thought we laid to rest will pop up. And we will want to move back into those old patterns because of the fear. And if we are not willing to look in the mirror and say, well, what's the actual underlying emotion under this? What's the actual fear that's going on here? Where's the self-protection coming in, right? Like if we're not able to actually look in the mirror and get real clear with ourselves and honest with ourselves and vulnerable with the Lord, that, yeah, okay, maybe that's not the best to entertain. Guess what? So I just had this thought last night. Like, look at us. I'm frustrated with my husband. How can I possibly lead more wives on this path of surrender and doing marriage God's way? That was not my thought. That was a thought directly from the enemy. And I called it out and named it as such that that's not my thought, Lord. That's not your thought. That's not of you. Because I know that the continuation and the building of high-level wife is not up to me. It's the Lord's program and the Lord's message and the Lord's will and ministry that He simply called and anointed me to be the mouthpiece to carry it forward, the hands and the feet. But it's not my power. It's not my understanding. It's his. And so when I am able to catch that thought and recognize it that, hey, that thought is not of you, Lord. That is not my own thought. I'm going to get rid of that thought. Right? I'm going to, I'm going to starve that thought. I'm not going to entertain that thought. I'm not going to go down that rabbit troll of continuing to feed that thought. Right? I'm going to call it for what it is. That's a lie from the pit of hell to try to get me off course, to move me back into old fear patterns, or for me personally, back into patterns of self-reliance and patterns of figuring it out on my own and taking things into my own hands, which it doesn't work. It's like filling a bag that has holes in it with money, right? It's like building your houses before you build the Lords, right? Go back to Haggai. That's how I got the confirmation to start and build a high-level wife. Wow, it's really windy right now. We got some papers blowing around here. Um, well, there you go. Anyway, so if every thought that you think is not your own, you are responsible to catch them. Now, what you feed your mind, what you and who you surround yourself with, the voices that are in your sphere, it's gonna make a big difference. Um, I've seen this time and time again with wives who are surrounded by other women who have gone through divorce, are recently divorcing, or who have terrible marriages. Guess what? Guess what happens? They're not gonna be voices that are for your marriage, they're not gonna be voices that are speaking truth into the real design, God's design for marriage. They're going to be speaking their own experience onto you, and they are going to, in order to make themselves more comfortable, they're going to encourage you to follow the same path, right? They're going to bring things to your attention that you didn't even know were there before and you're going to come in agreement with, right? Do you see how what you are choosing to submit yourself to and those in your sphere of influence, the voices in your corner, are not always for you. Not every thought is your own. Sometimes it comes from the enemy, and sometimes it comes from what you're choosing to submit yourself to. And then what you're choosing to come into agreement with. Right? And when we come into agreement with a thought that is not our own, that is not from the Lord, we just gave the enemy a door of access. We just gave him a stronghold. We just gave him a foothold. We just gave him a crack to start coming in. Right? So we have to rebuke these and renounce these and break these in the name of Jesus. Right? Sometimes those thoughts that come in are so wicked and so not of us and so of the enemy that we have to on the spot stop, snap your fingers. That is not of you, Lord. I rebuke it in the name of Jesus. Right? And some of those thoughts that come in are a little bit more sneaky. Right? For me, it has a lot to do with what I intentionally look for. I have to be very careful, and so do you, because there's something called confirmation bias that what you look for, you will find. Science, people. Okay, it's just how God designed our brains. And so it's very important that we have the right order so that we are intentionally looking for the goodness of God, that we are intentionally looking for his hand at work in our lives, that we are intentionally looking past what we can see with our physical eyes, looking past our own understanding and instead leaning on the Lord and trusting him. Because what you look for, you will find. So if you are looking for problems in your husband, you will find them. If you are looking for the goodness in him from the Lord, if you are looking for the king in him rather than the fool, you will over time train your brain to see those things. And here's the really cool thing about confirmation bias. Okay, you will start to make assumptions in a good direction. Right? You may misunderstand, but because you're you've trained your brain to look for the good, you're gonna assume the best. Right? I may have misunderstood, but I know that my husband is for me and not against me. I know that my husband is not my enemy. I know that my husband would never do anything to intentionally harm me. So I'm gonna get some more information, ask a little bit more questions, but I'm going to trust and look for the good. All right, so sometimes these sneakier thoughts come in the form of what it is that we're actually intentionally looking for, or that we have been taught through survival patterns to watch out for, right? This is why it's so important for us to regulate our nervous system because when your nervous system is dysregulated and you're in a stress response, you can't consciously think. Right? But the cool thing about our brain is we can train our brains for what to look for, and they will find what we train them to look for. In the beginning, they can really feel like you're trying to drag a semi out of some deep trenches of mud. But we have tools. We have tools to be able to make that a little bit easier, a little bit more streamlined. And it's it's not about just us figuring it out and that self-reliance, not at all. It's about the power of the Holy Spirit in us and through us, right? So, not every thought that you think is your own. What are the thoughts today that are building your marriage, building the house of your marriage God's way? What are the thoughts that are actually destroying it and tearing it down, tearing you down, tearing your husband down, tearing his design for marriage down, tearing his impact meant to be made through your marriage down? What are those thoughts? What is this? Is the mirror. I'm holding up the mirror to you to walk through this in the word of God with the Holy Spirit, to live by the Spirit, to walk by the Spirit, right? To crucify the flesh with its passions and desires, to focus on the fruit of the spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control against such things, there is no law. To understand the works of the flesh that are evident when we have eyes to see them for what they truly are, and then to renounce them, crucify them. So, what are those thoughts? What are those thoughts that the Holy Spirit is revealing to you that are just not doing it for marriage God's way that need to go? They they've taken up residence in your mind for far too long. And they need to be rebuked, renounced, broken off, cut off, cursed to the root, and burned in the Holy Spirit fire. I will see you on the next episode.